Many domestic violence victims feel paralyzed when they think about leaving their abuser. They are fearful of what might happen to them if they try to leave and cannot escape the situation. However, that doesn’t have to be the case; there are steps you can take to protect yourself and end the abuse once and for all.
These steps include:
- creating a safety plan
- collecting evidence
- getting your children ready
- contacting a domestic violence hotline
Creating a Safety Plan
It’s not as complicated as it sounds. A safety plan for domestic violence victims should entail vital information for when you are ready to leave the abusive situation. Important phone numbers, a plan for your children (if you have any), and things you would like to take with you need to be written down, so you don’t forget anything as you try to leave your abusive partner.
A victim’s safety plan should always be kept from their abuser, so they don’t suspect anything is happening. If you are researching how to leave your abuser, we advise you not to use your computer or phone. Your abuser may have access to those things.
Having a plan ready in advance can help you to protect yourself in stressful and uncertain moments.
Collecting Evidence
Domestic violence victims should consider collecting evidence about their abuse. Evidence can help an attorney, like Anthony Carbone, prepare your case against your partner. Any documented information would be helpful, including the dates of abusive incidents and pictures of bruises and other bodily injuries.
Getting Your Children Ready
If you are planning to leave your abuser, you are going to have to prepare your children. You should first tell your children not to discuss what you are talking about with the abuser, even though it may be their father.
Make sure they know that their first priority is their own safety. To prepare them for an emergency, provide them with basic safety information (call 911, run to neighbor’s house, etc.).
When you call a domestic violence hotline, trained counselors on the other end can help you figure out your exit plan. They will help you gather information for your safety plan, tell you how you can get support, and tell you where to go when you leave the situation.
Call the 24-hour New Jersey Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-572-SAFE (1-800-572-7233) or National DV Hotline: 1-800-799-7233.
Contact an Experienced NJ Family Law Attorney!
An experienced family law attorney is essential to any domestic violence case in New Jersey. An attorney can help you file a restraining order to keep you safe once you have left your abuser. Your attorney will also prepare the proper documents to request spousal support, child support, and legal fees.
That’s why you need to contact the Law Offices of Anthony Carbone. We have been assisting abuse victims in New Jersey with their legal needs for thirty years. Let us help you in your time of need. Contact our Jersey City law firm for a free and confidential consultation at 201-829-3805.