How to Stop Repeated Calls, Texts, and DMs Legally in New Jersey
Posted January 20th, 2026 by Anthony Carbone, PC.
Categories: Attorney Anthony Carbone, Domestic Violence.
Repeated calls, texts, and direct messages can cause real stress and fear. When someone keeps contacting you after you ask them to stop, they cross the line into harassment. New Jersey law gives you powerful options to stop unwanted contact and protect your privacy.
At The Law Offices of Anthony Carbone, we fight for people facing unwanted contact. Whether the messages come from an ex, a neighbor, or someone else, you can take action under New Jersey law.
When Messages Become Harassment
Not all messages qualify as harassment. People reach out for many legitimate reasons. But when someone keeps contacting you after you clearly ask them to stop, the behavior becomes harassment. Repeated, unwanted calls, texts, and DMs can make you feel unsafe or threatened, especially when the messages include threats, insults, or demands.
New Jersey law treats unwanted communication that causes fear or emotional distress as criminal harassment. When someone sends messages with the intent to disturb your peace or alarm you, law enforcement can take action.
Set Clear Boundaries First
Tell the person in clear, direct terms that you want the contact to stop. This simple step matters more than you might think. When the person persists after you ask them to stop, your request becomes part of the legal record. Save copies of your messages where you ask the person to stop contacting you.
Stay calm and direct when you communicate your boundary. Do not respond to threats or insults. Avoid arguments or heated replies. Your goal is to make it crystal clear that you want no further contact.
Save All Evidence
When the messages continue, save everything. Take screenshots of texts, calls, and DMs. Keep voicemail messages and document the times and dates of calls to establish the pattern.
Never delete evidence, even when the messages upset you. Law enforcement and courts need to see the communication to understand what happened. The more detail you preserve, the stronger your case becomes.
Report Harassment to Police
When repeated contact continues after you ask the person to stop, report it to the police. New Jersey law enforcement can investigate harassment and take action when the behavior breaks the law. Police can warn the harasser to stop contacting you and can make arrests when appropriate.
Bring all evidence with you when you report harassment. Show copies of messages, call logs, and any notes you kept. The more information you provide, the easier police can understand the harassment pattern and take effective action.
Use a Restraining Order
New Jersey restraining orders provide powerful legal protection. A restraining order prohibits someone from contacting you, including calls, texts, DMs, emails, and other communication.
You can ask the court for a restraining order when you fear harm or face repeated harassment. The court reviews your evidence and decides whether protection is necessary. When a judge grants a restraining order, the person must stop all contact listed in the order.
Violating a restraining order constitutes a serious criminal offense in New Jersey. When someone breaks the order by contacting you, law enforcement can take immediate action.
Get Legal Help Before Taking Action
Before you go to court or file for a restraining order, talk with an attorney. An experienced lawyer explains what options work best for your situation and helps you prepare evidence, complete paperwork, and understand what to expect in court.
At The Law Offices of Anthony Carbone, we focus on protecting people from harassment and unwanted contact. We guide you through seeking a restraining order or working with law enforcement. Having a knowledgeable attorney by your side makes the process clearer and less stressful.
Stay Safe and Follow the Law
While unwanted contact creates stress, you must remain safe and calm. Never confront the person in person if you feel at risk. Avoid sending threatening replies. Let law enforcement and the courts handle the situation.
Follow any court orders carefully. When you have a restraining order, make sure you understand what it requires. If someone violates a court order, report it to law enforcement immediately.
You Have Rights and Options
No one should feel trapped by repeated messages that cause fear or distress. New Jersey law provides clear ways to stop unwanted contact. Clear boundaries, documented evidence, police reporting, and legal protection through the courts all give you power to fight back.
When repeated calls, texts, or DMs affect your life, reach out for legal advice. The Law Offices of Anthony Carbone can help you understand your rights and guide you through the steps to protect your peace. Your safety matters, and taking action helps you regain control of your communication and your life.
Contact The Law Offices of Anthony Carbone for aggressive support and practical advice on stopping unwanted contact and pursuing legal protection. You do not have to face this alone.
