Escaping a Domestic Violence Situation? Read This.
You have been a victim of domestic violence for some time now and you’ve gotten to your breaking point. You’re tired of hiding the bruises, of making the excuses, of living of fear. You would have left some time ago but you’re not sure where to begin. Where are you going to go? Who can you trust? What are you going to do without any money? How are you going to take care of your children? What if your abuser finds you? You feel alone. What can you do?
First, please know that there is always help for domestic violence victims. You are never alone in this situation. There are many organizations out there willing to help you through this traumatic situation.
If you’re not sure how to start the process of leaving, here’s a few tips you can follow:
- Call 911 if you are in immediate danger.
- Create an escape plan – make sure you’re ready to leave at a moment’s notice. Practice leaving quickly and quietly and make sure you memorize a list of contacts who are ready to help you.
- Contact a domestic violence support program in your area to help you after you leave. You can find a list of domestic violence programs for New Jersey here.
- File a restraining order, especially if your abuser is stalking you.
- Make sure you have a safe place to go once you leave. If you don’t trust going to a family and friend, try an emergency shelter.